Muskrat Love and Goose Poop

Last night I floated next to an otter.  It might have been a muskrat, not an otter, but I'll say it was an otter because otters are cuter. He really could have been an otter as there are river otters at Summit Lake. Either way, he was a cute little furry animal, floating alone in the middle of lake, a couple of yards from my kayak. He looked up at me and dove straight down, popping up a few yards away. I looked around, smiled to myself and thought "Ahhhhh, alone on this beautiful, peaceful calm water, with little animals and big birds all around me. Finally. Exactly where I want to be. This is fabulous. This is the me I want to be." The lake was like glass and shimmered in the waning sunlight as I took it all in.




Then, as always, the other side of my brain interjected "Don't get too close because you don't know what it will do. He might be aggressive and swim towards you. Yikes, what if he tries to crawl into your kayak! It could happen, like that crazed swamp rabbit who tried to get into President Jimmy Carter's boat. What would you do if an animal of any sort, especially a snake, did that? Oh Lord, snakes. Hit it with your paddle, like Jimmy Carter!

But can you hit it hard enough to stop it or would you just make it mad? What if you lose your balance while swinging your paddle and kayak tips over? You really want to avoid that because the thought of falling into this water really scares you quite a bit.  If an animal comes after you, stay calm so you don't tip. But if you do tip over you'll float since you are wearing a life vest. Unless the vest rides up over your head like it did to that guy at work. But even then at most places you could probably touch the bottom.  Ugh, the bottom. The mucky, weedy bottom. And the submerged tree limbs, tangled with God knows what. And whatever is making those bubbles over there is crawling around the bottom. Turtles. Snapping turtles! And the goose poop floating everywhere on top of the water.

So. Much. Poop. 

Good Lord don't tip. Just paddle away from that wet rat now."

My damn conflicted brain wants to ruin my grand adventures, but I will not let it ruin this one. I will get out of my comfort zone, have fun and be more active, no matter what my fears tell me. I'm finally taking a chance, even just a small one, and doing something I've always wanted to do, being the woman I've wanted to be. I know it's just a 10-foot kayak on a 800-acre lake, but to me it's spectacular, inspiring, freeing, and exhilarating -- while sometimes just little scary. I know there are no whitewater rapids, and it's not like it's the great, dangerous wilderness -- it's just a small state park. But it's still a challenge for me to go beyond my comfort zone, out in the middle of a lake in a kayak, which I loaded into my CRV, unloaded and launched all by myself, when just two weeks ago I just fantasized about having a kayak someday. 


I've been all about that this last year -- stepping beyond my comfort zone and stretching into places where I've always wanted to go (or I visited long ago but haven't found my way back). Places that make me feel strong, independent, active, creative, and natural. But not comfortable.  Once I feel comfortable I know I need to add something to challenge me again. Kayaking on a river, kayaking on a big lake, or a much longer kayaking adventure. Camping maybe? Kayaking with my dog?



People probably laugh when they see me pull my kayak out of my Honda CRV. Not OFF of my CRV, OUT of my CRV.  It fits perfectly from windshield to back window, diagonally.  If it was a half inch longer it wouldn't fit -- I'd blow out my windshield when I shut the tailgate.  However, when I have it in my CRV, no other person can travel with me (hmmmm, that can be a good thing). Someday I may have enough strength to lift it onto my car, but I'll have to get a roof rack and kayak carrier first. I knew if I waited to get a roof rack before I started this adventure, it would never happen, so I load it into my car.



I really want my husband to get a kayak so we can have water adventures together. However, I knew if I waited for him to decide to get one before I started this adventure, it would never happen.  I also know if I waited for him to be available to go when I want to go, it would never happen. So I meet my sister or friend at the lake, or go alone, which is a little bit uncomfortable for me. My husband and daughter did follow me in another car one day so they could see me paddle my new kayak.  My daughter wants one now but she'll have to wait for me to get a roof rack.



I've gone to the lake with my kayak in my CRV just four times since I got it for my birthday and Mothers Day a few weeks ago.  I think about going all the time, though. I can't wait to try other lakes now, even though there is a lot more of Summit Lake to explore.

I look for kayak clothing and accessories and I've joined a few kayakers groups online.  I need to figure out how I can protect my iPhone so I can take pictures while I'm on the water; the waterproof case I'm using makes it too difficult to see the screen and the plastic creates strange light effects. I can't help but want to take pictures while I'm kayaking, because it's so beautiful out there.

Maybe my next challenge is to leave my iPhone at home and completely unplug.  However, that one part of my brain tells me to keep it with me in case I need to call someone to rescue me because I lost my paddle while swinging at crazed muskrats and snakes. I'm wondering, before cell phones, how did one call for help when they were up shit creek without a paddle?

Photo courtesy of Martha Bowman.

 



  

Deep Water and Shallow Fears

On our third and last morning of vacation on beautiful St. Pete's Beach, my friend Marcie and I stood looking out at the deeper water, just yards from the beach (yes I know, that's not really deep), catching sight of the sandy bottom, tiny shells and schools of teeny silvery fish between gentle waves and dapples of sunlight. We didn't want to say goodbye to the beach.

A lone man wearing goggles swam slowly, parallel to the beach, unaware of anything around him. We watched to see what would happen if he collided with a solitary couple standing shoulder deep in the smooth water. It was pretty early for anyone to be playing in the water so he probably didn't anticipate many obstacles during his morning swim. At the last moment they saw him and moved slightly out of his way -- he was completely unaware of the near miss and glided on. We wondered how long he had been swimming, how far he planned to go and if he did it often.  I thought how brave he is to swim like that and wished I could be so brave. 

Beautiful St. Pete's Beach, where we walked each morning of our vacation.

We had been wading calf-deep during our morning walks, but neither of us had ventured any further out. It wasn't just my irrational fear of deep water -- water where I can't see my feet or anything around my feet -- that kept me from going in deeper. My even more irrational fear of exposing my white, flabby body on a beach full of toned, tanned people -- young and old -- kept me from taking off the yoga pants that I wore over my bathing suit, rolled to my knees, wet and sandy from wading. I have always been modest and self conscious but even more so now as an overweight 52 year old. I wished I had one of those old type bathing suits or I was thinner. "Then I would swim", I thought. 

Now, though, I felt the deeper water calling me.  I longed to feel the softly rippled sand under my feet and gentle waves on my arms. I hadn't felt those sensations in years and years.  The last time I had been in the Gulf (or ocean or lake) any deeper than my knees had been over 10 years ago -- and it was not my choice to do so.  My daughters and I were at Point Estero in Florida and had just gone parasailing.  We got off the parasailing boat onto a  life-boat type raft that was supposed to take us back to the shore, but because the waves were too high for the raft to safely make it to the beach, we had to jump out into the pounding waves, almost chest deep (it probably wasn't that deep).  I was scared out of my wits, but the adrenaline rush from parasailing pushed me quickly through the water and onto the beach.

The feeling of being in the water was a lot like water skiing on Lake Erie with my aunt and uncle when I was a teenager.  I was at the far end of a tow rope, the people in the boat looking ahead, not at me, as I fell, letting go of the rope.  I was alone in very deep, dark water, as the boat sped away from me.  I hoped they would see that I had fallen, sooner than later, and come quickly back to pick me up. I grabbed desperately for the skis which had blown off my feet and put them back on, tucked my legs up, floated and tried not to think about what was swimming around and right under me. Or 10 feet under me.  Or 30 feet under me. I was scared an eight foot sturgeon would rub against me. "And what else is down there?" I thought. "I shouldn't have read "Jaws" this summer. I know there are no sharks in this lake, but what if...?"

The pier at Rye Beach, Huron, Ohio, on Lake Erie.  

Or it felt like jumping off the end of the pier at Rye Beach when I was a kid. I did it only once at the strong urging of my sister Karen and my cousins-cousins, Rick and Jeff, our summer playmates, who did it over and over and over.  The brown-green water, the slimy seaweed covering the rocks and sides of the pier where I had to climb out, the snakes and fish that swam below (I assumed), the fabled, supposedly extinct lamprey of the Great Lakes (they aren't extinct!). I just couldn't do it and my sister and cousins-cousins teased me when I wouldn't jump again.  I sat on the pier and watched them laugh and swim in the lake I loved but feared. I even feared swimming near the shore because globs of smelly seaweed and dead fish tangled with my feet much too often.

Nothing was forcing me into the water this third and final day of our vacation but I kept feeling the pull -- in a good way. I wanted to go in. Marcie heard the water calling too because she said "Let's go in".

"Really?" I said, like a kid. "You want to go too? But I don't have my water shoes (the ones that keep me from feeling slimy bottoms and seaweed) and my swim shorts (the ones that cover the stretch marks and bulges on my upper thighs)". 

"No one will care" Marcie assured me.  "No one will even notice us. And look how smooth the sand looks out there".

I took off my yoga pants and sunglasses, she took off her cover up and straw hat, and we lay them safely on one of the hotel's cabana chairs (which we didn't pay for, which made me feel guilty, and I worried someone would steal everything), along with our cell phones (for pictures, not calls) and my coffee cup from the hotel room (will they be mad at me for taking it to the beach?), then walked quickly back down to the water. I felt very exposed but quickly entered the warm water to my knees, then my hips, then my waist -- worried more about covering my exposed skin than what was in the water. Marcie held back a little, getting used to the feel of the water around her waist. I felt frightened but very brave to be out further than her -- even just a few feet -- alone. Should I shuffle my feet in case there are sting rays?  Were those tiny fish baby sharks or just tiny fish? Is there something larger chasing them like in "Finding Nemo"?

Soon we were both chest deep and began treading water, then floating, then gliding on our backs.  The warm, salty water felt incredible. Floating felt incredible -- relaxing yet exhilarating at the same time. Marcie marveled at my ability to float; I couldn't sink if I tried (another one of my super powers, I guess -- my other is predicting what size container will hold left-overs). A long river of tiny fish swam past us, between us, around us, but I never felt a thing, even though I both hoped and dreaded that I might feel them tickle my legs.

"I'm going to swim along the shore, just a short distance, just to say I actually swam in the Gulf of Mexico, along the shore, just like that guy". And I did.  Kind of. Head up. Face out of the water. Awkward strokes for only about 15 feet.  It wasn't like "that guy" but I did it.  I did it.  I faced my fear of "deep" water and got in.  I faced my fear of exposing my body in public, on a beach where we had just previously seen a very toned, very tanned, very fit, very good looking probable Tampa Bay Buccaneer (I'm sure it was Luke Stoker and now I'm afraid I'm a "Stoker Stalker") jogging in only shorts, sunglasses, a ball cap and running shoes. Oh my.

Sorry, I got distracted for a moment.  Anyway, I did it and it felt wonderful, relaxing, brave, long overdue. As we were in the water we noticed how far we had drifted from our entry point, which we had identified by our hijacked beach chair with all our stuff (yay, it was still there!), and it was okay. We simply swam back -- we swam back! -- got out, and excitedly talked about what we had just done as we gathered our belongings. I wondered if anyone looked out and thought we were brave and adventurous.  Or did they think the two middle-aged women coming out of the water were really silly? And then I didn't care what anyone thought.  I did it and I loved it.  I shared it with my friend Marcie and we will always have that memory, like I have my memories of parasailing with my daughters, skiing with my uncle, playing at Rye Beach with my cousin's-cousin Jeff, who passed away a few years ago. My friend and I swam together in the Gulf of Mexico, on the last morning of a beautiful adventure.


We're already talking about where we'll go next.